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Argument Fixer is an app designed to help keep disagreements from becoming destructive arguments. Disagreements don’t have to be competitions about who wins and who loses. Disagreements are better considered to be opportunities for both parties to explore frustrations, collaborate for restructuring and then reforge better agreements for the future.

Feelings of panic and stress build up during disagreements, overwhelming the rational mind which seeks to resolve the original problem wisely. People’s survival fears can lead them to be consumed in battle! Without an effective method of Emotional Management, the discussion becomes emotionally sabotaged - and effective problem-solving becomes impossible.

Argument Fixer’s tools offer a multi-level structure to keep disagreements productive. Its main feature, the “Fixer Cards” can be activated at the beginning of a disagreement, so both participants’ emotional states can be monitored and dealt with, before angry arguments can overwhelm them. Other features include various eye-opening educational concepts about communication. Consider using modern technology to help your disagreements remain stable. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.

Download and install our feature-rich app called Argument Fixer Pro.

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As a gift for visiting our site, you can download our free guide to using Friendly Strength.

“My ’Friendly Strength Theory’ suggests that you should NOT automatically jump to hostility simply because the other person seems to be hostile towards you. A wiser response for you is to remain internally secure, emotionally composed and intellectually open-minded. Next, gather further information by communicating rationally, demonstrating to the other person that you're both on the same team. Keeping your own feelings safely out of the situation, you each use your intellects for research to creatively resolve the situation for a new win-win outcome. Maybe you will or won’t succeed right away, but the other person feels more respected and included since you're each staying safe while being honest and open. Take no-fault breaks instead of getting overly stressed, then keep coming back again so you are suggesting innovative resolutions that you can both agree upon.
-from “The Art of Friendly Strength” by Jeff Teachworth, Certified Relationship Coach and creator of the Argument Fixer app.
 

 

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Click for info about The Four Agreements

 

The Four Agreements
by don Miguel Ruiz

This bestselling book insightfully discusses four very powerful and memorable concepts for a successful personal life. The Four Agreements are: “Be impeccable with your word. Don't take anything personally. Don't make assumptions. Always do your best.” Staying true to these core concepts will rapidly transform your life to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and peace.

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Nonviolent Communication
A Language of Life”
by Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD

As many of us grew up, we learned “Violent Communication” - trying to make the other feel guilty or intimidated. Start applying concepts like: observing without judging, communicating your needs and feelings openly and honestly, requesting instead of demanding behaviors to add joy to your life, and not taking ownership of other people's feelings or responses to you, etc. You will notice an improvement in how people in your life respond to you and your requests. Disagreements can be solved more easily and with greater respect, once you read this incredible book!

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12 Rules for Life
by Jordan B. Peterson

What are the basic facts of life that everyone in the modern world needs to know? Renowned psychologist Jordan B. Peterson's answer to this most difficult of questions uniquely combines the hard-won truths of ancient tradition with the stunning revelations of cutting-edge scientific research.

Humorous, surprising and informative, Dr. Peterson tells us why skateboarding boys and girls must be left alone, what terrible fate awaits those who criticize too easily, and why you should always pet a cat when you meet one on the street.

Dr. Peterson journeys broadly, discussing discipline, freedom, adventure and responsibility, distilling the world's wisdom into 12 practical and profound rules for life. 12 Rules for Life shatters the modern commonplaces of science, faith and human nature, while transforming and ennobling the mind and spirit of its readers.

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Click for info about  this book on Equalizing Relationships

 

 

Don’t Tell Me What to Do... Ask Me
by Cyndy Sheldon

This great book is helpful to men and women alike. It takes the high road about disagreements, teaching advanced discussion concepts in easy to understand language.

Concepts such as creative compromise, the valuing of process over content, and unilateral decision-making can enlighten your relationship and make you both proud to grow in it.

Cyndy Sheldon is a long-time Gestalt Psychotherapist and Trainer. She is also a teacher of Native American wisdom. This book is very helpful to all of your relationships and is highly recommended.

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The ULTIMATE EDGE:
How to Be, Do and Get ANYTHING You Want”
by Tina Thomas, PhD

This book is a one-stop shop for self improvement combining the art and science of over thirty years of Dr. Tina Thomas’ experience as a personal change Gestalt therapist. It gives you the tools to deal with the “fire” of your personal problems, rather than dealing with all the psychoanalytical smoke.

Issues with work, goal achievement, anxiety, stress, depression, relationships? The Ultimate Edge gives you the edge in life by explaining how your brain creates the mental maps that initially protect you but ultimately can sabotage your life.

You will learn how to change those mental maps so that, as far as your brain is concerned, you have an alternate past, which by default creates an alternate present and future, filled with liberating possibilities. Additionally, you will learn about the seven most misunderstood emotions and how to utilize them to your advantage. Finally, you will learn how to get your RAS in gear.

The Reticular Activating System is a filter in the brain that, once activated, helps you to achieve your goals quickly and dynamically. The Ultimate Edge is a guidebook to more peace, passion and power than you ever imagined!

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Click for more about That's Not What I Meant! by Deborah Tannen


 

 That’s Not What I Meant! How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships
by Deborah Tannen

...helps you understand how to find a common language method in which to strengthen all relationships - at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations and communication, this book will upgrade the way you interact in conversations.

“Part pop psychology, part sociology and part anthropology, this book by a linguistics professor at Georgetown University focuses on the uncomfortable moments when a conversation inexplicably breaks down, and suggests how such awkwardness can be avoided. Noting that there exist a plethora of books on public speaking, Tannen instead considers "private speaking,'' and particularly the “meta-messages'' we transmit, what we say, our attitude toward those we speak with, and the specific occasion involving such elements as loudness, pitch and intonation. Using scenarios that illustrate communication gaps, Tannen also attempts to show readers how to save their marriages and triumph in job interviews.” - Publishers Weekly

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Click for more about the Getting to YES book

 

Getting to YES:
Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In

by Roger Fischer and William Ury

What is your BATNA (Basic Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement)? Do you even have one?

Since its original publication nearly thirty years ago, Getting to Yes has helped millions of people learn better ways to negotiate. One of the leading business texts of the modern era, it is based on the work of the Harvard Negotiation Project, a distinguished group that deals with all levels of negotiation and conflict resolution.

Getting to Yes offers a proven, step-by-step strategy for coming to mutually acceptable agreements in every sort of conflict. Thoroughly updated and revised, it offers readers a straight- forward, universally applicable method for negotiating personal and professional disputes without getting angry-or getting taken.

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Click for more about Everlasting Optimism by Lenny Ravich

 

 

Everlasting Optimism: 9 Principles for Success, Happiness and Powerful Relationships
by Lenny Ravich

“Finally a book about optimism that is hilariously funny. Brilliant and easy to apply practical recipes for a happier life, charmingly written by an educator and humorist sage.” - Jack Canfield, Originator of the “Chicken Soup for The Soul” series

Take Lenny’s hand (but please don’t keep it) as he leads you through his hilarious 81 year journey to everlasting optimism. Learn how to:

  • Bounce back from adversity - live a life of laughter
  • Laugh at yourself and stay strong
  • Identify your emotions for an authentic life
  • Make your relationships workable and enjoyable
  • Use humor to adjust creatively to aging
  • Make a Lemonade Empire from lemons
  • Laugh at your past, then buy it lunch
  • Use the “bullfight” method to side-step negativity
  • Become a Reverse Paranoid (“People are saying GOOD things behind my back!”)

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YOU CAN’T SAY THAT TO ME:
STOPPING THE PAIN OF VERBAL ABUSE
- AN 8-STEP PROGRAM”
by Suzette Haden Elgin, PhD

Frequent and repeated use of unanswerable questions, scalding accusations, sarcasm, insinuations, and even icy silence is more than simply unpleasant. It is abusive, destructive, and frequently leads to escalating arguments and physical violence.

Suzette Haden Elgin, creator of the "Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense," books, has developed a unique and revolutionary way to break the cycle of verbal violence and eliminate it from your life - without ruining your marriage, risking your job, or alienating friends or loved ones.

Dr. Elgin shows you how to neutralize verbal attacks and discourage future abuse with:
* An 8-step program that helps you recognize the patterns of verbal abuse
* Specific language techniques that enable you to avoid escalating arguments and break the cycle of abuse using skills you already possess
* Questionnaires and diaries that help you analyze abusive situations, evaluate your responses to them, and track your progress

In this book Dr. Elgin proves that verbal abuse is not caused by human nature, but by language. She helps you discover that you are an expert in your own language, already highly qualified to solve this problem for yourself, quickly and forever.

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Living Successfully book - Click for more info

 

Living Successfully with Screwed-Up People
by Elizabeth B. Brown

You can be positive -- no matter who tries to bring you down. We all have our problems with each other, but don’t let a manipulator take advantage of you.

Unfortunately, the world is full of screwed-up people. But the good news, says author Elizabeth B. Brown, is that your world no longer has to revolve around them. With brilliant insights and a keen sense of humor, this trusted author shows you how to:

  • Take back the power from the difficult people in your life
  • Respond productively when confronted
  • Remain poised and in control when everyone around you loses it
  • Win fairly in unfair battles
  • Let go of the past and live triumphantly now

Real-life success stories, brief diagnostic tests, a list of various types of mental abusers and many practical tools are included. This book will help you assess your own unique situation and empower you to live successfully among controlling people.

Stop being the victim of others and stay on top of your life.

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Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza

 

Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One
by Dr. Joe Dispenza

You are not doomed by your genes and hardwired to be a certain way for the rest of your life.
A new science is emerging that empowers all human beings to create the reality they choose.

In Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, renowned author, speaker, researcher, and chiropractor Dr. Joe Dispenza combines the fields of quantum physics, neuroscience, brain chemistry, biology, and genetics to show you what is truly possible.

Not only will you be given the necessary knowledge to change any aspect of yourself, but you will be taught the step-by-step tools to apply what you learn in order to make measurable changes in any area of your life.

Dr. Joe demystifies ancient understandings and bridges the gap between science and spirituality. Through his powerful workshops and lectures, thousands of people in 24 different countries have used these principles to change from the inside out. Once you break the habit of being yourself and truly change your mind, your life will never be the same!

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The Presence Process
A Journey into Present Moment Awareness”
by Michael Brown

Why is it so difficult to respond consciously when we are upset? Why do we instead resort to automatic behaviors that are hurtful, unconscious, self-defeating behaviors?

We each have suppressed emotional imprints that were programmed into us through fear and trauma. This imprinting occurs automatically throughout childhood. This book helps dissipate your emotional charges, consciously identify and integrate them so that whenever upset, you’ll no longer automatically resort to those old reactive behaviors.

The Presence Process invites us to aspire to 'conscious emotional response' as a way of life. Reading and applying the simple breath-work procedure explained in this book will make it possible for anyone, anywhere, to transform the quality of their life experience from one of uncontrollable reactivity into a self-aware presence of admirable strength.

We all long to be free of our emotional outbursts and to instead experience an inner calm responsiveness in the face of difficulty. What The Presence Process reveals through direct experience is that any attempt on our behalf to 'get rid of' our emotional discomfort is misguided. Rather, it experientially reveals to us the miraculous transformation that unfolds when we instead embrace conscious emotional responsibility.

The Presence Process is an exciting self-facilitated learning experience of becoming fully empowered for choosing our emotional condition.

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